26 December, 2010

St. John Bosco Visits San Ildefonso Parish

The Relics of St. John Bosco are making a pilgrimage around the world to prepare for the celebration of the 200th Anniversary of the Saint's birth on August 16, 2015. The worldwide pilgrimage will make a stop in Salesian schools and parishes, and some cathedrals where majority of the faithful can view the relic and pray to the saint.

Fr. Pascual Chavez, SDB, the Rector Major of the Salesians had directed the worldwide pilgrimage, hoping to renew the desire to know and love the Father and Teacher of the Youth and reignite the passion and mission for the young.
A resin replica of the body of St. John Bosco, the relic contains the saint's right hand in a sealed case and inserted at the chest of the sculpture.

My Family were able to witness the relic's visitation in San Ildefonso Parish in Makati City.

A light truck specifically made for the occasion is being used to transport the relic as it goes from one city to another.

22 December, 2010

Christmas in Manila

Three days before Christmas, kids wander all over the streets of Manila. These kids are hard to miss on a crowded place because they are often seen playing improvised drums in the streets. They would hop from one passenger jeepney to another to play music, hoping passengers would be entertained and eventually give them loose change. Parents are also in the streets -- begging. Their families came from provinces and ended up here in Manila because they believed they could have a better life here.

Scenarios such as these had caused debates among the government offices, non-government agencies and many 'law-abiding citizens' -- that the danger these kids are facing while hopping from one public vehicle to another; that instead of giving alms to these children, they should be sent to the orphanage, etc. etc.. That's indeed a long argument.

For now, do a little something to help those in need, the holidays are the perfect time to open your heart and "wallet" to give back.

13 December, 2010

Child Discipline

When should a parent begin disciplining their children?
What's the best technique and effective ground rules laid at home? 

Children can be disciplined with natural consequences. As they mature and request more independence and responsibility, teaching them to deal with the consequences of their behavior is an effective and appropriate method of discipline.

For instance, a fifth grader's homework isn't done before bedtime, should you make him or her stay up to do it or even lend a hand yourself? Probably not -- you'll miss the opportunity to teach a key life lesson. If homework is incomplete, your child will go to school the next day without it and suffer the resulting bad grade.

It's natural for parents to want to rescue kids from mistakes, but in the long run, they do kids a favor by letting them fail sometimes. Kids see what behaving improperly can mean and probably won't make mistakes again.

Be careful not to make unrealistic threats of punishment like, "Slam that door and you'll never watch TV again!", not following through could weaken all your threats. The same with you threatening to turn the car around and go home if the squabbling in the backseat doesn't stop. Be sure you do exactly that. The credibility you will gain with your kids is much more valuable than a lost beach day.

Set up rules regarding homework, visits by friends. curfews and dating and discuss them beforehand with your teenager so there will be no misunderstandings. Your teen will probably complain from time to time, but also will realize that you're in control.

When your teen does break a rule, taking away privileges may seem the best plan of action. Give a teenager some control over things. It will help your teen respect the decisions that you need to make. You could allow a younger teen to make decisions concerning clothes, hairstyles, or even the condition of his or her room.

Spanking as a way of discipline is 'No-No'! Why?

-- Spanking teaches kids that it's okay to hit when they're angry;
-- Spanking can physically harm children;
-- For kids seeking attention by acting out, spanking may inadvertently 'reward' them -- negative attention is better than no attention at all.

It is important to be consistent about discipline. If you don't stick to the rules and consequences, kids aren't likely either.

12 December, 2010

Most Embarassing Date Ever

I had a bonding time with my daughter and her girlfriends nights ago. What's the favorite topic? Of course.. Boys!

I still remember the gals laughing out loud like almost peed their skinny-tight jeans when one of the girls shared her most embarrassing experience with her first date. Here's her story.

A cute guy in one of my classes asked me out for dinner at a trendy restaurant. Something about the food didn't sit well with me, and I needed to use the comfort room in the restaurant. After we ate, I made a beeline for the only comfort room in the restaurant, which was unisex. I knew that only one person could use it at a time, so I just let everything out. When I finished, I opened the door and saw my date standing right outside the comfort room. I tried to play it cool and talked to him about how the comfort room smelled weird. Judging from the look on his face, he definitely knew what went on in there.
Upon hearing this revelation, I likely would want to join the other girls from laughing out, almost rolling down the floor. When they settled down, I told them --

Why should you worry over trivial matters with your date and cover up the obvious with a really lousy excuse? However stinky, if you gotta go, you gotta.

03 December, 2010

I Am A Woman

A woman is..
  • intelligent. She has the ability to decipher the codes of the male person and have found countless ways of both manipulation and exploitation.
  • resilient. She won't easily break down when faced with adversity or deception.
  • powerful. Although, always mistaken as weak, she can hold a collection of strong emotional feelings.
  • sympathetic. Especially with people undergoing sad situations. She gives way to tears when she witness something heartbreaking.
  • lovable. Despite the little male cooperation, she tenderly attends to her family's needs ahead of her own.
  • nurturing. She guides and corrects her children and best friends.
  • capable of motherhood and has the right to refuse of sex, even to her husband.

A woman is not..
  • a property.
  • a trophy as a stag mounted on a wall.
  • an irrational being incapable of reaching agreements, despite the menstrual cycle might inspire.
  • a slave having to serve the demands of her marriage.
  • a silent kitten, withholding wrath and taking abuse.
  • a hypocrite. She often reveals of herself, gradually enhancing her personality until she exposes her core
  • just me. She's your daughter, mother, friend, grandmother, aunt and every other female around you.

02 December, 2010

Hinder - Lips Of An Angel

Lips of An Angel [Power Ballad]

The lyrics deal with a singer describing his feelings when his favored girlfriend from his past calls late at night, somewhat "pleasantly interrupting" his current relationship. More than once, a reference to the call being secret is made, and the singer expresses concern of a fight ensuing as a result. The song concludes just as it began, with the singer questioning to why she is calling so late, though the second (and last) time it is less literal and more figurative, with the underlying meaning "so late" not at night, but way too late in life; unable to continue the previous relationship. The song ends with the plot unresolved. Austin Winkler from Hinder said on American Top 40 that the song is not about cheating. According to a radio interview done in Atlanta, Georgia the lyrics are loosely based on an actual phone call incident that did happen. [source wikipedia]

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I love, love, love the song! Hinder looks like black-haired Kurt Cobain.
He's whispering on the phone, so as not to get caught. His voice is very sexy! It's kinda exciting and naughty, and brings back a lot of memories. Now that I'm older, memories are all that I have, so enjoy yourselves while you are young! (evil grin)
Nah, just kidding!

30 November, 2010

Thank You, Doc (?)

Cosmetic Surgery -- it's major objective is to reconstruct or repair deformities caused by accidents, diseases, or birth defects. But for some, it's the best solution for them to look better and enhance their natural appearance - button noses, washboard stomachs, voluptuous lips, perfect breasts, face lifts, liposuction. Unfortunately, it isn't always the case.

Some people are slaved to cosmetic surgery. It's becoming an addiction to others, neglecting the fact that there will come a time they might get bored and wrinkled. Many who "refuse to age gracefully", still looks fine, would still go for a surgery. Even these hollywood celebrities, with all their money and connections, are sometimes victims of bad plastic surgery. Not only women, but men as well, are getting hooked-up to it.

Jackie Stallone

The mother of Sylvester Stallone, had a multitude of plastic surgery around her eyes, facelifts, lip injections, etc.

Donatella Versace

The sister of Gianni Versace and took over the Versace brand when the latter passed away. Botched: lips and facelift.

Jocelyn Wildenstein

A wealthy socialite who is said to have spent $4 million on cosmetic surgery.

Joan Van Ark

Dallas and The Knots Landing star
Hang Mioku

A Korean woman who become obssessed with face-jobs at the age of 28. She decided to take it upon herself to inject cooking oil into her own face.


Tara Reid
Breast augmentation, liposuction and face lift

Barry Manilow

Facelift in 1995, uppper and lower blepharoplasty in 2003 and additional facelift in 2006, as well as regular botox injections.

Carrot Top

Some people call him 'Scary Top' because his face looks so odd, his eyes arch strangely and his lips are huge for a guy.

Pete Burns
Undergone several cosmetic procedures, evidently on his lips.

Mickey Rourke
Six nose surgeries

Michael Jackson
Born as an African-American guy. His father nicknamed him 'Big Nose'. Couple of jobs on his nose; smaller jaws, narrower eyebrows, permanent eyeliner tattooed around his eyes, cheekbones, chin implant, lips, lightened skin.

As for me, God has given me this skin and I will never replace it with plastic. You can choose to disagree, but if you will look closely, cosmetic surgery is leading us to a society based on vanity. Vanity can't buy true happiness.

(images are consolidated from various sites)

29 November, 2010

Wandering Eyes

Remember those days when your husband had eyes only for you? It made you feel very special and truly loved.

  • A reasonably attractive woman on her mid-thirties, gets extremely irritated when she and her husband were having dinner at a restaurant. She realized that she doesn't have his attention any longer. Frustrated. Talking to his man and telling him something that needs a response and found him not listening, rather, staring dumbstruck at the woman on a mini-skirt sitting next to their table.
  • A girl on a date with her boyfriend goes furious every time he looks at another woman. She feels like it's a slight on her own worth as a woman that she couldn't manage to keep his boyfriend's eyes fixed on her. She even thinks that the other woman is looking at her with pity for being with a guy whose eyes are wandering.

There's one thing a woman finds most annoying, her man feels compelled to survey the scenery in the room-- checking out other women.

For many women, they are unsure if whether to take it up with their spouse or just ignore it. If your man is admiring a woman, don't take it seriously  ---- as long as: 

He's being honest about it:
If he's looking blatantly as irritating as it may be, he's telling you loud and clear, "I find that woman appealing, but I'm not going to do anything about it."

He doesn't compare:
If all he's doing is admiring and not drawing comparisons, let him be. As long as he doesn't tell you what a great figure she has and you should work on yours too, or make you feel inferior, leave him to enjoy his little pleasures.

He doesn't look lasciviously: 
As long as he doesn't make it too obvious that he's checking her out or stare too hard at her, it's harmless. Mentally undressing her or looking at another woman to the point it makes either her or you really uncomfortable, is not acceptable.

He doesn't start fantasizing about her:
If he starts weaving fantasies around the sexy woman that he checks out, and if he speaks out those fantasies and they start interfering with your sense of self-esteem, then you've got a problem on your man.

He makes a disgusting habit out of it.
If he enjoys looking at an attractive woman or one with a stunning figure, he's only acting on his normal male instincts. But if he's always looking at anything in a skirt, irrespective of the way she looks or dresses, that could rightfully get your goat.

If your husband is looking at other women, analyze it. Why he does it and why it gets to you. As long as he doesn't have any hidden agenda and his intentions are above board, you can just ignore it. Do you also think about his wandering eyes could be because deep down, you're insecure about him and his intentions? If so, talk to him about it and tell him how you really feel.

If you can't beat them, join them:
Instead of keeping an eye on him and watching him check out other woman, why don't you check out some yourself. In case he doesn't like you doing it, that would probably give him a fair idea of how you feel when he does it. A fair play!

Beat him to it:
Instead of getting annoyed when he looks at other women, spot the woman first and draw his attention to her. That way, once you have told him to look, he's only doing your bidding and you can't get irritated about such an obedient spouse, can you?

Find humor in it:
Tell him how much time you'd have to spend in front of the mirror or how much of his money you'd have to spend on the fancy dress she's wearing, just to look the way she does.

Every man accompanying the most gorgeous woman turn to look at another sexy woman. It's just a normal male response. As long as he treats you good and is committed to your relationship, you can just laughed at it and give him a proverbial pinch of salt.

27 November, 2010

What causes a nosebleed?

What do you do if your child has a nosebleed?

A nosebleed can be a very traumatic event for a child. They will often be scared and think something is seriously wrong with them because there is so much blood.

The first time they had these nosebleeding, I panicked and got so worried. Who wouldn't be scared seeing your children with so much blood coming out his/her nose? I searched online to look for answers. Here's one:

What do you do if your child has a nosebleed? Answered by Dr. Albright

As per my children's pediatrician, there's nothing wrong with my kids. The doctor told me that whenever nosebleeding occurs, my children should see me as calm as possible and reassure them that they are fine. Then, perform the steps on how to cease the bleeding. The doctor also recommends teaching them how to handle it by themselves so that if I am not around, like if they are in the school, they will know what to do.

Hollywood Stars Go for Pacquiao

Hollywood celebrities, artists and athletes are swarming the arena when Manny Pacquiao gets on the stage. Among others, here are some of the stars who support Pacman:

Beyonce Knowles
American R&B singer

"When he gets in the ring, he's a beast! I love it! And he shows you can have humility and be a calm person and also be driven when it's time and be a fighter."

Denzel Washington

"I look forward to coming to the Philippines. Maybe I'll go down there with Pacquiao. You know, I just want him to stay strong and clean, keep fighting and winning."


Mark Wahlberg

"You saw what Pacquiao did to De La Hoya, he's going to do the same to Hatton."


Ron Perlman
Hellboy (2004); Hellboy II (2008)
Blade II (2002)
Enemy at the Gates (2001)
Star Trek: Nemesis (2002)
Alien Ressurection (1997)


Jeremy Piven
The Serendipity (2001)
The Player (1992)


Christian Bale
Batman Begins (2005)
American Psycho (2000)
Empire of the Sun (1987)
The Machinist (2004)


Russel Crowe

Gladiator (2000)
A Beautiful Mind (2001)
The Insider (1999)
Master and Commander: The Far Side of the World (2003)

Kobe Bryant

American professional basketball player who plays shooting guard for the Los Angeles Lakers of the National Basketball Association (NBA).


Jack Nicholson

Batman (1989), The Departed (2006), As Good As it Gets (1997), A Few Good Men (1992)



Jay Z

An American rapper and businessman. He is one of the most financially successful hip hop artists and entrepreneurs in America

(I do not own the images above,
consolidated from various site)

26 November, 2010


Here are some ways to save yourself from hang-over.

Drink more water
For every alcoholic drink you have, your body can expel up to four times as much liquid. The diuretic effect of alcohol and the dehydration it causes contribute to the discomfort of a hangover. When you wake up with a headache and a generally icky feeling, dehydration is the cause. Staying hydrated can reduce the negative effects of alcohol.

Hit the rocks 
On-the-rocks drinks like Manhattans and cosmopolitans -- as the ice melt, the drink is diluted. Take your time with a drink, sip it slowly. The faster you drink, the more toxins in booze spends in your body affecting your brain and other tissues -- the more pain you feel in the morning.

Skip the bubbles 
Carbonated mixers increase the rate of alcohol absorption in the blood. The gas in the bubbles is what speeds up the process. Instead, mix your liquor with fruit juice or water. If you are going to drink something bubbly, alternate between alcohol and non-alcoholic beverages. The reason is that you still have a glass in your hand and feels like your having a real drink, but you're not doing the same harm.

Get busy 
Having conversation is an easy way to pace your drinking. If you are chatting, you're not guzzling, so you're slowing down the rate booze hits your blood. Eat something. Eating slows down the absorption of alcohol so you have more time to metabolize what you're thinking. Best options are fish (salmon, tuna, mackerel and sardines), or some nuts and seeds (walnuts and flaxseed).

Keep your head and stay cool.

23 November, 2010

Justice Delayed

The Maguindanao Massacre, also known as the Ampatuan Massacre, happened on November 23, 2009, in the town of Ampatuan in Maguindanao province, on the island of Mindanao, Philippines. At least 57 journalists are known to have died in the massacre.

Two days before the incident, the mass grave was prepared using a backhoe emblazoned with the name of the Maguindanao Governor Andal Ampatuan Sr. and apparently owned by the Ampatuan family. The killings were horrible! 2 of the 57 victims were both pregnant at the time of their murders.

Andal Ampatuan, Jr.

Andal Ampatuan, Jr., hit in the face by an angry photographer

It's been a year. Up to this time, only one person was arraigned, Andal Ampatuan Jr., while the relatives of the victims are still grieving their loss. The long arm of the law indeed finally moved, but it is moving in slow motion that it seems no one can do anything about it.

President Noynoy Aquino, declared the November 23 as a National Day of Remembrance. The Maguindanao Massacre marks one of the darkest hours of Philippine politics. Although, justice is delayed, most Filipinos still hope that even the wheels of justice are slow, when they grind, they would grind finely.

21 November, 2010

Shut Up, Will You?

Make sure to teach your children to chew food with their mouth closed.

My table manners are perhaps shy of impeccable. I tend to mess up tablecloths, occasionally use the wrong utensil, rarely bang the inside of my teacup with my teaspoon, etc., but I do not chew as though I wished all of my dinner companions would have a good view as to the progress of food mashification inside my mouth.

My friend and I set a lunch date in a fancy restaurant somewhere in Makati. She told me that she will bring her boyfriend. Thought it's gonna be a nice get together, it was a nightmare! Her boyfriend is chewing louder that I have ever heard anyone chew. It's as if he was receiving pleasure in hearing his own tongue slap his food around in his humongous and cavernous mouth. I could hear every frigging action that was occurring in his mouth. It was the most off-putting thing to sit and listen to while you are staring at your own dish.

I actually intentionally stared at him for close a minute to see if he would literally shut up. He didn't. He had no clue whatsoever that there was anything wrong. I wanted to run over and shake my friend violently and ask her how could she possibly face a lifetime with someone who created more sound with his mouth, without speaking or shouting???

Closing your mouth while chewing prevents your food from falling back out. But closing your mouth also keeps chewing sounds to a minimum.

16 November, 2010

Bully - is someone who takes advantage of another individual that he or she perceives as more vulnerable. The goal is to gain control over the victim or over the bully’s social group. This type of behavior occurs in all ages and in all social groups.

Bullying behavior harms both the victim and the perpetrator. If a child experiences chronic intimidation, he or she may learn to expect this from others. He may develop a pattern of compliance with the unfair demands of those he perceives as stronger. He may become anxious or depressed. Finally, he may identify with the bully and become a bully himself.

The bully is also harmed. If he or she is allowed to continue the behavior, it becomes habitual. He becomes more likely to surround himself with friends who condone and promote aggressive behavior. He may not develop a mature sense of justice. If he intimidates others to cover up his own insecurities, his own anxiety may increase.

A bully consciously picks weaker, more vulnerable victims, and repeatedly bothers the same people. He tends to do his bullying when authorities are not around. He may enjoy watching the victim’s reaction. There are a number of reasons that a child or adolescent becomes a bully.
  • He or she may need to cover his own feelings of inadequacy.
  • He may lack good adult role models. If he sees parents bullying him or each other, he may regard this type of behavior as simply the way one should act.
  • Other children fall in with a peer group that uses bullying. They may learn it from these friends.
Which children are most likely to be the victims of a bully? Children who are isolated, physically or socially; children who are perceived as different; sensitive children; those with poor social skills; and sometimes children who are just in the wrong place at the wrong time.

Sometimes parents may not know if their child is being bullied. Some children are intimidated into secrecy. They may also keep quiet because they feel shameful that they have allowed this to happen. They may fear that the parents will either criticize them or that the parents will intervene in a way that will make everything worse.

You need to know how to get your child talking about his concerns. It is best to broach the subject at a calm neutral time. Ask general questions about whether something is bothering your child. Avoid interrupting or judging. Try to stay calm and do not make outraged statements while your child is telling his tale. Avoid offering premature solutions. You may not get the entire story on the first telling. Be patient and bring up the topic again later. Finally, if you feel that something is going on and suspect that your child is withholding information, call his or her teacher.

How can you help your child deal with the bullying?
  • First, help teach him to avoid being an easy target. Start with posture, voice and eye contact. These can communicate a lot about whether you are vulnerable.
  • Tell your child to avoid isolated places where no one can see or hear him. He should learn to be vigilant for suspicious individuals or for trouble brewing.
  • If bullying starts, he might be able to deflect it with humor or by changing the subject. He should run over a list of positive attributes in his mind. This reminds him that he is worthy of something better than bullying behavior.
  • Teach your child not to obey the commands of the bully. Often it is better to run away than to comply.
  • The parent may help the child make more positive friends. If he or she sticks around with a group, he is less likely to be a target.
  • Finally, if the child sticks up for other children he sees being bullied, people may get the idea that he is not someone who tolerates bullies.
Some children benefit from a good martial arts class. It is important to select an instructor who talks about alternatives to physical violence and who teaches children how to get out of dangerous situations with the least amount of physical contact. Children who stick with these lessons rarely use their skills in aggressive ways. The discipline often raises their self esteem which makes them less likely to become a target.

These guidelines may need to be modified according to the child’s age or the intensity of the bullying. In general the older the child, the more the parent acts as a coach and the less the parent or teacher intervene directly.

05 November, 2010

Database for Sale?

My partner is constantly receiving SMS from a certain SAM MENDOZA, asking for help. Read below the message she sent.

Puede po ba akong  humingi ng tulong sa inyo? I'm Sam, 21yo girl and freshgrad from Bacolod City. Gagawin ko po ang lahat ng kapalit na gusto nyo, matulungan nyo lang akong makapunta sa maynila. May job hiring na po kasi sana ako sa dyan sa San Mig-Ortigas, sayang po kasi kung madidissolve lang. I'm willing to take the risks ng kapalit na hihingin nyo. Yun na lang talaga pag-asa ko na makaluwas kaagad para mahabol deadline ko po. My TOR & supporting docs po ako sa www.girlinbacolod.tk-sam

After a week, the same girl had the guts to make a follow-up.

Ano? tutulungan nyo po ba ako (blah blah blah)...

Just lately, my partner learned that several of his colleagues received the same exact message. The mobile phones they're using were issued by the company. All were subscribed to Globe. Their mobile numbers are in sequence, they differ only on the last digits. We didn't buy this drama. I just don't know my husband's officemate's wives.

The text messages keep on coming and starting to irritate us. So, I searched the internet, and found out that this was really a Scam.

  • image file name is Ana.jpg (obviously a scam)
  • content shows personal info, TOR, credentials, stating a DOST scholar, etc.
Unfortunately, her name is not listed in the DOST Scholars. This is a very good scam that appeals to guys with a soft spot for damsels in distress. The person doing this most likely knows how a computer and internet works. Grammar usage is fine, so they're not stupid either. Website is forwarded so they definitely are experienced.

Here are other sites which are operated by the same scam.

I landed to a site and really got surprised to the large number of comments it received.

The people who posted their comments are all Globe Post-paid Subscribers. They gave infos of this SAM SCAM. They gave several mobile numbers which were used by the scammers:


This 'Sam Mendoza' is seriously persitent. And, almost all her targets are globe post-paid subscribers. How did she get the info on phone numbers since it seems she knows that the owners are guys. Hmmm, i'm starting to think that this is an inside job. If that's the case, somebody's getting paid a lot for this. I wonder, how much do these unscrupulous globe employees get by selling their database to insurance companies, banks and worse, to scammers like sam? Sad, really sad.

This scam will not only take your money, it might as well destroy your marriage.

31 October, 2010

Cremation or Burial?

This is not to raise any religious issues. I know most religions allow burial versus cremation, but apart from your religious beliefs, how do you want your body handled after you pass away? 

Cremation, while still a controversial practice is nonetheless widely performed throughout the world. 

For those who favor cremation, it offers the following benefits:
  • The entire process of cremation, whether or not it includes a service or just the incineration of the corpse, is far cheaper than burial, even though a coffin or container is used. 
  • For those prone to ponder the lasting appearance, the process of cremation offers a quick, purifying process. This helps people to banish the thought of the body lying for decades in the ground while suffering slow decay. 
  • The cremains, as the ashes are termed, can be kept at home in a fashionable container or urn, thus offering the family the opportunity to remember the loved-one on a daily basis.
Individuals favoring burial emphasize:
  • The sanctity of the human body and value the fact that burial keeps the body intact. 
  • Burial is less ‘final’ to its advocates and affords those left behind the chance to remember the person either at a grave site or vault. 
  • Funerals for those to be buried afford dignity and promoters for the burial process assert that the body belongs to God; let not man take it into his hands to destroy.

Cremation or burial?

This can only be answered in an individual's or family's conscience and beliefs. As for me, the body that is interred, will either slowly decay or burn rapidly, God will give all His children a new body, glorious and incorruptible to dwell with Him forever.

30 October, 2010

Dealing with the In-Laws

When we talk about in-laws, we're almost always talking about mother-in-law, with sister-in-law running a close second. What is it about the other women in our men's lives, the ones they grew up with and who, presumably, helped shape them into the guys we love?

Some of us are lucky enough to become fast friends with these women, to find an additional set of shoulders to lean on, even to discover a replacement for a mother we lost or are distant from. But there are difficult cases -- it seems that in- law troubles are pretty darn common. Here are some of the most common scenarios.

Problem 1: "We Have Very Different Lifestyles."

The mom-in-law is a very poor house-keeper, and when the wife and her husband go to visit both of their families, they always avoid camping at his mother's house. Mom-in-law is completely able to clean if she was willing. She knows her home is a cluttered mess, and even jokes about it, but does nothing to improve it.

Example:The next visit will be Christmas and the baby/toddler will be crawling/playing around the house. The wife doesn't even want the baby off her lap, let alone crawling on the filthy floor.

You can't try or force your in-laws to change in the situation. We all have our tolerance levels when it comes to tidiness, and trying to make someone else match ours is opening a door to on-going problems. However, since there's a baby involved, I would agree that telling the mother-in-law to either clean her house or you clean for her. Kids will do pick up just about everything, and they are susceptible to common household germs. For me, that's the best thing to do.

PROBLEM 2: "They Won't Accept Me"

No matter what she does to try and please her in-laws, there's no winning. If there are issues and the mother-in-law can't figure out a way to blame her son, it becomes her (the wife) fault.


If possible, just accept things as they are; or talk to your husband about how your in-laws are always doing things for you rather than trying to get to know you, and how it makes you feel. If he's not willing to do something about it, then maybe he's not that interested in you. A guy should make sure that his family gets to know her, otherwise, there is something wrong.

Think about this: Who's side is your husband on? What's his overall relationship with his family? If he doesn't get along with his family, why do you think you're going to fare any better?

Problem 3: "She's the Boss"

Here's one scenario: Your sister-in-law had a Christmas visit, older than your husband, overrode the holiday dinner plans (in your own house), suggests things -- "these are better than those"; or "do this rather than that" and so on.


If you don't like the things she suggest, tell her -- in a nice way --, that you planned those things and you already have a list. It's your house anyway. If she took it badly, it ain't your problem anymore... =)

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08 October, 2010

Toxic Red Sludge in Hungary

On Monday, October 4, 2010, a large reservoir filled with red sludge in Western Hungary ruptured, releasing approximately 700,000 cubic meters (185 million gallons) caustic mud, which killed many animals, at least four confirmed deaths.

This aerial image taken Thursday Oct. 7, 2010 and made available by the environmental group Greenpeace shows toxic sludge covering the fields, streets and canals in the town of Devecser in Hungary. Red sludge flowed into the Danube River on Thursday, threatening a half-dozen nations along one of Europe's key waterways. Monitors took samples every few hour to measure damage from the toxic spill and emergency officials declared one Hungarian tributary dead. As cleanup crews gathered deer carcasses and other wildlife from the villages in southwestern Hungary flooded by the industrial waste, environmental groups warned of long-term damage to the farming region's topsoil.   (AP Photo/Greenpeace/Peter Somogyi-Toth, HO)Original Filename: Hungary-Sludge Flood.JPEG-0c272.jpg
A 12-foot-high flood of sludge inundated several towns, sweeping cars off the road as it flowed into nearby Marcal River.

Cars are piled up in a flooded parking lot in Devecser, about 150 kms southwest of Budapest, on October 5, 2010 after the village was submerged on October 4 by toxic red sludge from a local aluminium plant. Three persons died and 60 were injured in western Hungary when a reservoir of residue from aluminium production broke and flooded two nearby villages -- Devecser and Kolontar -- with toxic red mud.    AFP PHOTO / ATTILA KISBENEDEK (Photo credit should read ATTILA KISBENEDEK/AFP/Getty Images 

The red sludge in the reservoir is a byproduct of refining bauxite into alumina, which took place at an alumina plant run by the Hungarian Alumina Production and Trading Company. Hungary opened a criminal probe into toxic sludge flood Wednesday (October 7, 2010) and the European Union urged emergency authorities to do everything they can to keep the contaminated slurry from reaching the Danube and affecting half a dozen other nations.

Over one million cubic meters of the poisonous chemical sludge inundated  three villages endangering thousands of people with an ecological catastrophe in the region.

A local resident rests on a chair in the garden of his house covered with red mud while rescuing his belongings in Devecser, 164 kms southwest of Budapest, Hungary, 06 October 2010, after a dike of a reservoir containing red mud of an alumina factory in nearby Ajka broke two days ago, and over one million cubic meters of the poisonous chemical sludge inundated three villages, killing four persons and injuring over hundred. Three people are unaccounted for and hundreds of families have been evacuated.  EPA/TAMAS KOVACS
A Hungarian man pushes his bicycle in front of his home flooded with toxic mud in the town of Devecser, Hungary, Tuesday, Oct. 5, 2010. Monday's flooding was caused by the rupture of a red sludge reservoir at an alumina plant in western Hungary and has affected seven towns near the Ajkai Timfoldgyar plant in the town of Ajka, 100 miles (160 kilometers) southwest of Budapest. (AP Photo/Bela Szandelszky)   Original Filename: Hungary Chemical Accident.JPEG-03d27.jpg

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24 September, 2010

Life and Debt?

How would one live a life that is full of debt? Life becomes miserable if you stay in debt for your lifetime. There is no one in the world who would like to spend his or her lifetime in debt. A simpler life, a simple living and being contented of what you have may eliminate the word 'debt' in your vocabulary.

I have met and observed a lot of people who will do anything just to be noticed. tsk!
Why would you avail of a motorcycle that's been offered on a deferred payment when you know that your monthly paycheck is just a little higher than it's monthly dues? Why, because you saw your bestfriend roaming around with his brand new-shiny big bike?

Certainly, you have your own big bike. But, your expenses doesn't end in paying the monthly mortgage. What about the gasoline it will consume, the maintenance, the insurance and all? If you become hungry and short, can you eat your 'big bike'?

Why would you ask your boss if he/she could give you a one month advance if you will just spend it with your friends on your upcoming birthday? I know, it's because you want your buddies to see that you have a nice paying job.

Sure, you and your friends had fun. What if one of them believed that your boss was really that generous, and then that believer asked you, "We've been together in good times, my landlord wants me out for late payments?" Will you tell the truth that you are not expecting a paycheck this month because you wanted a fabulous birthday?

Just because your neighbor's son is studying in an expensive private school, why would you send yours to the same school though you know you can't afford it? How? Will you ask your relatives for financial support?

Say, your relatives declined your request for assisting you on your child's education, will you get mad on them and think they were so mean for not treating you as one of the family?


Jealousy, greed, discontenment...

these traits will make their lives miserable. They will keep looking on what's on the other side of the fence and will definitely do anything just to have the same. As long as they don't accept who they are and what they have, they will never achieve happiness.