18 January, 2010

Four Warning Signs of a Cheating Husband



Probably one of the most hurtful things for a woman to discover is that her man is cheating on her.  It will hurt deeply and you may not seem to be able to face him. Women have strong intuitions when it comes to cheating and most of the time, they are not wrong. However, women are also afraid to know the truth.  A patient woman may pretend that nothing is wrong and will simply go on with her life with the hope that her husband will come back to her.  Nonetheless, there are women who are not afraid to face the truth and are ready to confront their disloyal partners. If you are this type of woman, you must know the signs of cheating.

Here are four warning signs of a cheating husband:

1. Obsession with Physical Appearance

The first warning sign would be in your husband’s physical appearance. Men are not generally vain in nature so if your husband suddenly cares about how he looks—how his hair falls, if he smells good, crumpled clothes as a no-no, etc.—you have a right to be suspicious. Your husband may suddenly takes too long in the shower when he used finish bathing after 5 minutes before.  He may also always make sure that he smells good before he goes out of the house. When your husband suddenly starts to shop for new clothes or new underwear on his own, pay attention.  This may be out of the ordinary, and is suspicious if this is a task a wife normally takes care of while shopping.

2. Cell Phone and Computer  Secrecy

The second warning sign could be a developed secrecy with respect to his cell phone and his computer. The moment your husband starts being protective about his gadgets and starts bringing them wherever he goes all over the house, he may be cheating.  A cheater will rarely leave his phone anywhere because that would give you the chance to snoop around.  And, cell phones are actually the best way to catch a cheater because you can see the numbers of who he has been calling.  Even if he already erased all the call register lists and the messages, there may be a chance that the other girl may text or call him while he is with you. When it comes to computers, he may change his password for his laptop. He may also create another e-mail address without your knowledge.

If you have the opportunity to view his cell phone, you may want to look into use of a reverse cell phone look-up service.  These will give you the name and address associated with a phone number.

3. Obsession with Exercise

The third warning may seem positive if you look at it in a different perspective but just as mentioned in number one, many men do not care about how they look. So what is the third warning?  An overly obsessive attitude about going to the gym.  Few men obsessively work out and work hard to create a toned body.  Perhaps your husband or boyfriend is exercising with a goal in mind–an upcoming marathon, enjoyment of general fitness, etc.  However, if there does not seem to be a goal in mind with this exercise, this should probably raise suspicions.

4. Strange Changes in Schedule

Does your husband suddenly have to be at work late many times during the week?  Does he suddenly have “work” on the weekends where previously this may have been rare?  Does he come home at strange hours?  Sudden changes in work schedule may signal an extra-marital relationship.  Pay attention to your husband’s demeanor when arriving at home, and ask about his day, and what he did.  Make careful note of his response, as it may signal insincerity or lying.

Some men can be sneaky even if you know the signs of cheating, so be sure to keep a careful eye on your man if you sense a change in behavior or relationships.

source: http://catchspousecheating101.com


HOW TO TALK TO THE OTHER WOMAN

A step that many woman take between discovering a cheating husband and confronting the cheating husband, is confronting the other woman. Sometimes, you will get more honest information about the affair from the other woman than you will from the husband.

Talking to the other woman takes courage and a significant amount of mental preparation. If you have made up your mind that you want to confront the other woman, here are the steps to take:

1. Weigh the advantages and disadvantages of contacting her by email, phone or in person. By email, you can control your emotions and present your questions clearly, but it also gives the other woman to craft a lie with the help of your husband. In person, the other woman had no chance to contact your husband for HELP, but it really takes guts of steel to remain calm. A phone call is an intermediate option.

2. Come up with a list of questions before hand and plan your words carefully. You are probably interested in how he met her, how often and when the trysts took place, and how much money he has been spending on her. This last one is important. Because your husband and the other woman will probably lie about this, you should hire an investigator.

3. The other big question that's in your mind is, did the other woman know that your husband was married and cheating on you, his wife? Realize that most men who cheat do not tell their lovers that they are married or in a relationship. If the other woman is a stranger to you, from a different circle, and says she didn't know, she is likely telling the truth.

4. If the other woman refuses to speak with you, it is often a sign that she knew your husband was married. In this case, do not try to contact her anymore, just go directly to your husband with the information.

5. In every step, it is important to control your temper. If you lash out verbally or physically, you will not get any information, and the other woman may press charges against you. If you think you will not be able to control your emotions, do not confront the other woman. Hire a third party to investigate instead.

source: ehow.com




17 January, 2010

HOW DO I KNOW IF HE IS CHEATING?

According to my spouse there is nothing wrong with “innocent flirtations” or having members of the opposite sex as close friends. It feels like cheating  to me though and I am very hurt by it. Am I being unreasonable?


If it feels like cheating, infidelity or adultery to you, then it is. Infidelity and cheating are a betrayal of the expectations you have of your partner. Especially when it concerns his or her contact and  relationship with another person.

If you and your spouse have talked about this subject and you have openly expressed to him/her that you are uncomfortable with flirting with and close friendships with members of the opposite sex, he/she should respect your feelings on the matter.

It’s difficult to define what constitutes cheating and infidelity because people have differing opinions on the subject and what they would consider appropriate or inappropriate behavior from a spouse.

Some people think it is wrong for their spouse to…

    * Flirt with a member of the opposite sex.
    * Discuss things of a sexual nature with a member of the opposite sex.
    * Giving gifts to a member of the opposite sex unless they are a relative.
    * Have sexual contact with someone other than their partner.
    * Chatting online with a member of the opposite sex.
    * Sharing personal information and feelings with someone other than their spouse.

Some couples would have no problem with any of the above behaviors. But, there are those couples who find all of the above to be unacceptable.

The only way to define cheating and infidelity is if you feel your expectations of your spouse have been violated. When your expectations are not being met, the emotional outcome is feelings of betrayal. If those are the feelings you are having, then, yes, your spouse is cheating.

Here is where you might have a problem though. Most couples don’t discuss this issue in great detail. They may express to the other that cheating or infidelity is not acceptable but, they do not define what they view constitutes cheating or infidelity.

I suggest you sit down and have a discussion with your spouse and you both come to an agreement as far as what is appropriate and inappropriate behavior as far as contact with a member of the opposite sex.
source About.com
 

11 January, 2010

Are You a Hot Mama?



Hot mama or old maid? The birth of a child shouldn't mean the death of your sexuality. You can still be a hottie instead of a nottie. Take this quiz and see if you're still on fire.





 
 Which would you most likely use as a diaper bag?
a. This cute coach number I picked at the outlet
b. a traditional diaper bag with zoo animals on it
c. i refuse to carry a diaper bag
d. s smart backpack-type diaper bag

Which of the following shoes do you wear mostly?
a. sneakers
b. flip flops
c. stilettos
d. wedges
e. low heels

When you walk out of the house, your hair is..
a. hidden underneath a baseball cap
b. pulled back in a ponytail
c. looks good for the most part
d. appears as if you stepped out of a salon

On most days, your attire largely consists of..
a. dresses
b. t-shirts and short skirts
c. t-shirts and sweat pants
d. sexy blouses and jeans

How often do you shave your legs?
a. everyday
b. once a week
c. once a month
d. every few months
e. i don't even own a razor anymore

After a long day with your child, how do you reward yourself?
a. a quart of chuncky monkey ice cream
b. a nice soothing bubble bath
c. a trip to the gym
d. a visit to the spa for a mani and pedi

If a stranger looks at you, he or she would think..
a. you are 10 years younger your actual age
b. you are 10 years older than your age
c. you are your actual age
d. that you should be carded you look so young

On a given day, you wear,
a. a ton of make-up
b. a bit of lipstick
c. no make-up at all
d. enough make-up not to look dead

Which of the following would your teenage son's friends likely to say about you?
a. your mom has got it going on
b. I see your grandma, but where's your mom?
c. you have a mom? i never noticed her
d. can i get your mom's digits?

At the PTA meeting, you..
a. fit right in with the other moms
b. are frumpier than most of the other women
c. have been mistaken for the sibling of a student
d. are the mom that turns the other women's heads

You're child got invited to a pool party. You..
a. keep your clothes on at all costs
b. refuse to attend
c. don your skimpiest two-piece bikini
d. wear a conservative one-piece with sarong

When it comes to underwear, you wear..
a. nothing
b. g-string
c. thongs
d. granny panties
e. low-rise bikinis

take the quiz now and see if you're still a HOT MAMA! Click here.

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How Much Sweating is Too Much?

Sweat, as stinky and uncomfortable as it can be, is a natural and healthy part of life, helping to cool the body. But excessive sweating can pose problems in your social life and relationships, and perhaps even to your emotional health.

What is excessive sweating?

-- also called hyperhidrosis, that you sweat far more than your body needs to sweat. Sweating without a need for it is another sign of abnormal sweating. Those excessive sweating of the feet may produce so much sweat they are sliding out of their shoes. Most often, no cause of excessive sweating can be found. Doctors call it Idiopathic -- meaning the cause is unknown or obscure. However, there may be genetic influences. Another factor of excessive sweating is underlying medical conditions and medicines.

How Is Excessive Sweating Diagnosed?

It's important to keep in mind that most people who sweat heavily are normal, and not sick. If you are worried, and decide to see a doctor, most specialists will take a careful medical history.

Among the questions you can expect:

    * Do you sweat excessively from certain small areas of your body or all over?
    * When do you notice yourself sweating? Can you describe the situation?
    * What medications are you taking regularly?
    * Have you recently started taking new medications?
    * Have you had any surgeries recently?
    * Are you going through menopause?
    * Do you have family members who complain of excessive sweating?

If the doctor determines that your sweating is "idiopathic," and has no known cause, you can still treat the problem if you wish. Treatments range from simple home remedies such as showering more frequently to medications or surgery such as sweat gland removal.

"It's no big deal." But, It's important to see a doctor.



 Effects:
There's an impact in excessive sweating  in patient's lives. Like,  teenagers who will not raise their hands in class, fearing their underarm area will be excessively and embarrassingly wet.

Quality of life is affected in older patients too. It can affect business relationships . People are embarrassed to shake hands.

So don't sweat about the problem. Instead, talk to an expert. Remember, sweating is a good thing. But too much of a good thing can become a big problem.

source: WEBMD 2010, LLC, All Rights Reserved

10 January, 2010

SMART ANSWERS TO SNOOPY QUESTIONS

Money talks, but talking about money can be uncomfortable. It's one thing to be discuss finances with your family or close pals, but quite another when a stranger loudly asks how much you paid for your home. If you feel that someone's intention for asking money questions is not a friendly or lighthearted, then you don't want to give them information.

When busybodies want the scoop on your finances, give them these clever come-backs instead!


Q: How much money do you make?
A: The best way to deflect money questions is with humor. Try "Not enough to buy that mansion going up across town!" For a more direct approach, "Sorry, I only discuss money matters with my accountant."

Tip:
Keep your tone light, but your expression
serious. The look on your face should say, "This is not something I'm going to discuss further." The other person will get the message.


Q: How much do you pay for that?
A: How much responding with a questions of your own? Say, "Why? Does it look expensive?"

Tip:
The key is in the delivery -- keep it light. The person is left not knowing if you paid a lot a lot or if it was a bargain.
And they don't need to know.


Q: How much are you giving?
A: The perfect response when you're enjoying yourself at a wedding is, "We're giving what we should have spent on a gift."

Tip:
That is the honest answer, but it doesn't tell the the other person what have you spent on a gift.



Q: How much do you have saved for retirement?
A: The person is asking about money, but the other offense is that they're asking about the age too. Put the focus on the age issue by responding, "Why? Do I look like I'm going to need to retire soon?"

Tip:
Laugh it off then quickly change the subject.

04 January, 2010

REPRODUCTIVE LINGO, DECODED

Know what your OB-Gyne is really talking about. Here are some terminologies they use and its meaning.

DYSMENORRHEA

Menstrual cramps. Painful spasms in the abdomninal area during menstuation which are caused by the flow of prostaglandins - these hormones make the uterus contract during menstruation, which in turn results to pain. Treatment includes anti-inflammatory pills and/or the low-dose pill with iron.

MENORRHAGIA

Heavy and prolonged menstrual bleeding; or blood loss that requires four fully-soaked pad changes in a day; or a menstrual period that goes beyond seven days. Menorrhagia happens regularly or every time you have your period. It is usually a symptom of endometriosis or rarely, cancer of the uterus, and it often causes anemia. OB-Gyne usually recommend iron tablets of the low-dose pill with iron as treatment.

ENDOMETRIOSIS

Growth of endometrial cells (the same cells that form inside the uterus and is shed as menstrual discharge during menstruation) outside the uterus, for example, the ovaries, fallopian tubes, intestines, vagina, cervix, pelvic cavity or bladder. It is typically seen in women age 25 to 35 and is commonly associated with dysmenorrhea, dyspareunia (painful sex), dyschezia (painful bowel movements), dysuria (urinary urgency) and infertility. While it may lead to ovarian cancer, these growth cells are usually benign. Endometriosis does not lead to endometrial cancer. Doctors recommend the use of oral contraceptive pills as treatment.

ENDOMETRIAL CANCER

Cancer that grows in the lining of the uterus. Its symptoms include vaginal bleeding between menstrual periods or after menopause. Treatment depends on the cancer stage, the most common of which is total hysterectomy (surgical removal of the uterus). Prevention includes taking oral pills, as advised by the doctor.

OVARIAN CANCER

Cancer that grows in or on the ovaries. Symptoms include abdominal pain, bloating, constipation and vaginal bleeding, Women at risk with this type of cancer are those with a family history of cancer, over 55 years old, never pregnant and menopausal. Like other cancers, treatments include chemotherapy and radiation.

POLYCYSTIC OVARIAN SYNDROME (PCOS)

Also known as Stein-Leventhal syndrome, PCOS is a hormonal problem that causes a woman to have irregular or no menstrual periods. It is the most common cause of infertility. Other symptoms include excessive hair growth, acne and oily skin, obesity and a deep voice. Women with PCOS are at risk of having endometrial cancer among others. Treatment include lowering insulin levels and taking anti-androgen pill.

CANCER ALERT: Information is our primary weapon

Gynaecologic cancers are cancers that grow in your reproductive organs (cervix, ovaries fallopian tubes, uterus, vagina and vulva). Be vigilant against these health threats. Here are some facts every woman needs to know:

1. Every woman is at risk, and the risk increases with age.
2. When gynaecologic cancers are found early, treatment is most effective.
3. Some gynaecologic cancers are caused by human papillomavirus (HPV), a common sexually transmitted infection (STI). There is an HPV vaccine available. With proper use, condoms also protect against HPV and STI.
4. If you are experiencing anything abnormal - pain, excessive or no bleeding, cell growth, etc. - check with your OB-Gyne immediately.
5. Be pro-active. Know your reproductive system, how it works and how to best care for it. Do not undervalue or forgo your annual reproductive health check-up.
6. Be smart in choosing the best contraceptive method for you. These contraceptive props do more than prevent pregnancy, they also prevent gynaecologic cancers and treat its symptoms.

03 January, 2010

HOME SPA DELUXE

Indulge in the ultimate pampering session, minus the high salon price.

Relaxation is not a luxury when you're not busy. It is a must despite your hectic schedule. Buy yourself a healthy mind and body with easy and rejuvenating home-spa.

What you need:
-- your favorite soft music
-- scented candles or favorite perfume
-- bath
buddies: shower gel or bar, body scrub or brushes, moisturizer, bubble bath, aromatherapy, bath salt, rose petals, shampoo and conditioner
-- healthy food and drinks: green tea and fruits
-- foot spa es
sentials: scrub, lotion, pumice, bath salt, rose petals and soap
-- facial musts: facial cleanser, toner and mask
-- towels
-- anti-androgen pill

What to do:

Step 1: Fix Your Schedule

Choose the time of the day when you are almost free. It's hard to relax when
you are waiting for dinner to cook or the washing machine to finish its job. The best times are when the kids are either sleeping or off to school, and hubby is at work. Sunrise and sundown provide the ideal climate and temperature. If the summer heat is too scorching, set your home-spa in an air-conditioned room.

Step 2: Set the Mood

Creating a relaxin
g environment is foremost in fixing a home-spa. Choose the best part in the house where you are most relaxed. The space should be clean and clutter-free. Make sure that lighting is not too bright or not too dark for an ethereal and peaceful feel. Play some soft and relaxing music (try some classical instrumentals), and spray sweet perfume or light scented candles to clinch your desired ambiance.

Step 3: Gear Up

Put together all your spa essentials: shower gel or bar, body scrub or brushes, moisturizers, a cup of green tea, and a plateful of your favorite fruits (avocado, banana and kiwi relieve stress; papaya cleanses the digestive system; and berries have anti-oxidant qualities that are good for the skin).

Step 4: Facial Care

Cleanse your face with a gentle soap and steam it by placing your face a safe distance over a basin of hot water with some green tea. Apply toner and facial mask after a few minutes. Try avocado, banana o aloe mixed with freshly squeezed citrus juice and a drizzle of olive or nut oil.




Step 5: Cond
ition Hair

Massage shampoo onto hair. After rin
sing, apply rich conditioner and let it seep into your tresses for five minutes.

Tip: With the conditioner on, wrap hair around a towel while you enjoy the facial mask. Rinse hair in cool water after five minutes. Shower off.





Step 6: Scrub and Indulge

In the shower, scrub your whole body, the following a circular motion. Start from the feet, going up to the neck. Pay close scrubbing attention to the knees, ankles and heels. Rinse and wrap yourself in a towel. Fix your foot spa with some bubble bath, aromatherapy bath salts, and some rose petals on a basin with warm water. Slip your feet into the sweet smelling water and enjoy the soft music as you drift and think of peaceful places and things while sipping your green tea and munching on fresh fruits.


--Have a tub? indulge on a luxurious body soak. Fill the tub with water up to 104 degrees and add the bubble bath, aromatherapy bath salts and some rose petals. These help detoxify your body. Slip into the water and relax.

--Tip: How to get spa benefits on your skin without stepping into the tub? Pop a pill. The pill with anti-androgen hormone has been proven to provide soft and clear skin by ridding it with pimples and unwanted hair.

Step 7: Pat and Dry

After enjoying 10-20 tranquil minutes of foot spa, rinse and pat dry your feet with a soft cotton towel. Lavishly apply creams or lotions all over your body, specially the knees, ankles and heels. Cap this refreshing experience with some yoga exercise or a good massage.