29 November, 2010

Wandering Eyes

Remember those days when your husband had eyes only for you? It made you feel very special and truly loved.

  • A reasonably attractive woman on her mid-thirties, gets extremely irritated when she and her husband were having dinner at a restaurant. She realized that she doesn't have his attention any longer. Frustrated. Talking to his man and telling him something that needs a response and found him not listening, rather, staring dumbstruck at the woman on a mini-skirt sitting next to their table.
  • A girl on a date with her boyfriend goes furious every time he looks at another woman. She feels like it's a slight on her own worth as a woman that she couldn't manage to keep his boyfriend's eyes fixed on her. She even thinks that the other woman is looking at her with pity for being with a guy whose eyes are wandering.

There's one thing a woman finds most annoying, her man feels compelled to survey the scenery in the room-- checking out other women.

For many women, they are unsure if whether to take it up with their spouse or just ignore it. If your man is admiring a woman, don't take it seriously  ---- as long as: 

He's being honest about it:
If he's looking blatantly as irritating as it may be, he's telling you loud and clear, "I find that woman appealing, but I'm not going to do anything about it."

He doesn't compare:
If all he's doing is admiring and not drawing comparisons, let him be. As long as he doesn't tell you what a great figure she has and you should work on yours too, or make you feel inferior, leave him to enjoy his little pleasures.

He doesn't look lasciviously: 
As long as he doesn't make it too obvious that he's checking her out or stare too hard at her, it's harmless. Mentally undressing her or looking at another woman to the point it makes either her or you really uncomfortable, is not acceptable.

He doesn't start fantasizing about her:
If he starts weaving fantasies around the sexy woman that he checks out, and if he speaks out those fantasies and they start interfering with your sense of self-esteem, then you've got a problem on your man.

He makes a disgusting habit out of it.
If he enjoys looking at an attractive woman or one with a stunning figure, he's only acting on his normal male instincts. But if he's always looking at anything in a skirt, irrespective of the way she looks or dresses, that could rightfully get your goat.

If your husband is looking at other women, analyze it. Why he does it and why it gets to you. As long as he doesn't have any hidden agenda and his intentions are above board, you can just ignore it. Do you also think about his wandering eyes could be because deep down, you're insecure about him and his intentions? If so, talk to him about it and tell him how you really feel.

If you can't beat them, join them:
Instead of keeping an eye on him and watching him check out other woman, why don't you check out some yourself. In case he doesn't like you doing it, that would probably give him a fair idea of how you feel when he does it. A fair play!

Beat him to it:
Instead of getting annoyed when he looks at other women, spot the woman first and draw his attention to her. That way, once you have told him to look, he's only doing your bidding and you can't get irritated about such an obedient spouse, can you?

Find humor in it:
Tell him how much time you'd have to spend in front of the mirror or how much of his money you'd have to spend on the fancy dress she's wearing, just to look the way she does.

Every man accompanying the most gorgeous woman turn to look at another sexy woman. It's just a normal male response. As long as he treats you good and is committed to your relationship, you can just laughed at it and give him a proverbial pinch of salt.

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